Warning: Real Talk
First off let me say this is for ex partners that you are still in love with.
So you know how it goes with an amicable (ish) breakup, you decide that you are not working out as a couple and that you should be “just friends”.
Girrllll….. Dude….. Nooooo!!! After a breakup, you need time to grieve the relationship and heal. The only way to do that is to distance yourself from your ex. Whether or not it was painful, you need time to give your mind and spirit a chance to break from the relationship gently. Which brings me to reason number one.
- You’ll never truly be friends with an ex that you still love. I know that you may disagree but believe me, when you think about your non romantic friendships and the support and unconditional love that you give each other through thick and thin you will see where I am going with this. Could you really share your heart, your experiences especially dating experiences with your ex and they be happy for you? Do you want to hear the romantic details of their new relationships? True friends share those things and are happy for the other. It would be terribly hard to be happy for someone that you are still in love with.
- You will have a hard time moving forward. Truth! When your heart and mind is still connected to someone that you love and are in love with, you are not open to finding future love.
- It will cause issues and tension in your new relationship…. Your new partner will not likely be okay with the idea that you are still friends with your ex and at the end of the day, would you want to mess up a potentially great new relationship for one that is in the past?
And lastly, remaining friends with an ex is simply a way to keep him or her in your life a little longer. And while that may sound like a good idea at first, do you really think you can be friends in the long run?